She called me to let me know she was upset that she lost her iPhone and instead of me further (drowning her in her sorrows) telling her how sad it was that her iPhone was lost and drowning her in words of how was she was going to find it, I said to her not to worry, that worst case she had to buy her a new one (that its all just money, right?). She said what do you mean? I responded with ‘Think about it, one day if given the chance to choose whether to lose your iPhone (or anything menial) or lose something more meaningful in your life, you would certainly choose your iPhone in a heartbeat”.
I used to be the type that got so stressed, I mean my brain would be so over-worked, to be point where I would get migraines when things suddenly didn’t work the way I anticipated them to work. Simple things like traffic on the way to the airport would unsettle me. My brain would over-analyze the impact 20 steps ahead of what the possibilities would be leading to worry and exhaustion. Over time, I learnt to embrace change; I learned to flow with the wind; even now I expect my sails to change. Especially when it involves material things, I do not worry because I know these things can always be bought again if not now, then at a later date. I have learnt to accept that I am not an oracle so I do not have the power to predict the future either.
So this brings me to point of this post: Life will never go exactly the way we want it but the issue isn’t with life but with us. We need to learn that it is impossible to anticipate our lives and that we make the fatal and fundamental mistake of thinking we have the power to do so hence why we are left disappointed. We also need to know that we will lose things, we will be hurt, we will be disappointed, we will feel PAIN but we should not take these feelings too seriously as they are all part of life. More so, we shouldn’t let these changes affect our quest for life, our drive to be more, our path to success, our road to live a meaningful, happy and purposeful life.
Worrying doesn’t empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.” || Corrie ten Boom