Do I have a BIG EGO??

So this post has been inspired from a recent response I received from a person asking me whether I truly believe one of the post I recently shared on instagram from one of my favourite writers “Alex Elle”

The quote was about how I would never love another more than I love myself. So quoting this individual “Doesn’t that quote make you a little egocentric and narcissistic”. I think it’s only fair that we dig deeper for the sake of clarity and as such I am going to take us to the Oxford dictonary to explore the meanings of these two words.

Egocentric 

– thinking only of oneself, without regard for the feelings or desires of others; self-centred

Narcissistic

– having or showing an excessive interest in or admiration of oneself and one’s physical appearance.

So now let me get on to explaining the quote so that we all clearly understand it’s meaning. Loving me doesn’t refer to loving how I look or any superficiality. It involves respecting me, my being and understanding that taking care of my wellbeing whether it is physical, psychological or emotional is important and paramount and only when I can do this properly, I am truly capable of knowing how to truly love another properly. What I speak about or hope to relay from the quote is way deeper that any superficiality.

So to conclude I am not egocentric and I am not narcissistic (but I openly admit that I admire myself and my journey so far). So to further conclude, I think it’s important for us to “look, before we leap” before making judgement about who others are. Its important to be able to read between the lines.

On a different note, why does the world have such a big issue with the notion of self love, as if to say that loving one’s self is a crime, as if to say its a no-no a taboo. Could it possibly be because somewhere beneath it all, the world actually wishes it had a dose of that love itself? Anyways, I will leave this topic for another day.

 

“Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask, “What else could this mean?” || Shannon L. Alder

 

Much love

#Sassy