Why we all need to stop with the New Year’s Resolutions

It is the first week of the year and many of us have started putting into action all our new year’s resolutions we spent the month of December constructing. From losing weight to spending more time with our families to being more present in our day to day lives, they go on and on. It has been many years since I participated in this yearly ritual that the world refuses to let go of. To be honest, I hate New Year’s resolutions for many reasons but the main reason being that they never truly last. One popular resolution for many is to lose weight in the New Year and YES! Many gyms see their memberships soar high in January but attendance falls drastically from February onwards till pre-summer.

For those that don’t know, I used to be a chubby teenager. I didn’t care much for my appearance until I stepped into university. I remember watching an episode of “The Oprah Winfrey Show” where Oprah showcased a book titled “The Sonoma Diet”. Even though the book was titled with the word “diet”, the book was about lifestyle and mindset change. It revolved around making realistic changes that could actually stand the test of time. Till today, I still do the Sonoma diet and will humbly say, I still look pretty good 🙂

So what is the point of my chubby story? It’s simple. Lasting change I believe occurs when we create personal mindset changes. And this change does not have to start on January 1st of every year. It really should start silently and quietly with you and only you. It should start without a worldly date in mind; it should start when you want and most importantly when you are truly READY for the change.

I can see why the beginning of the year can seem synonymous with new resolutions but bear in mind that the beginning of any week, day, hour or minute can also seem synonymous with new resolutions too. Just because the world is making resolutions on January 1st doesn’t mean you have to follow the herd and feel pressured to do what you may not even be ready for. My words for you this New Year is that you should not wait till any worldly beginnings to decide when to “BEGIN” YOU. And when you do decide to make changes to your life, focus on mindset changes that will change your life not only for the moment or the year but for a lifetime.

What are your thoughts on New Year’s resolutions? Perhaps you disagree with my perspective? Do share your thoughts.

4 reasons why I am excited about 2016 and why YOU should be too!!

  • New Mistakes (DOing MORE, sayING less)

I believe this year, well each day of this year will be a chance for YOU and I to build something new, to try something and of course to let ourselves make new mistakes. I am hoping to let go of all fears and just DO, so stay tuned. Remember “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” (it could leave you broke (but money is just money), it could leave you hurt (but hurt is temporary)…what we stand to accomplish is WAY much more) so LET GOOOOO.

 

  • To see more of Africa (and the world)

I spent a considerable amount of time and money in 2015 exploring destinations from the Maldives to Jordan, Singapore to Indonesia. Even though it seems to those around me that I have explored too many places but with each trip I made, I felt that I had much more to learn about the world (I remember laying on a cruise boat in Halong bay (Vietnam) and thinking “how the hell did I not know this existed”) and I am hoping to do more exploration this year starting with a trip in less than 2 weeks (yay!!). I am also looking to explore more of the African continent, it’s very easy to focus on what is elsewhere “over there”, not realising the beauty that lays right by our feet.

 

  • Learn more about one’s self

I used to think I knew who I was 100 percent but with new experiences, challenges, LIFE hitting me, I have realized that I had changed daily. Even though the core of my beliefs have stayed the same (sometimes tested), I realize that I unlocked new facets of who Sassy is with each experience. For me this is an exciting revelation and I am looking forward to getting to know ME (the good, the bad and the ugly).

 

  • Feeling settled in my home country

If you are a regular to my blog, you will know that I recently made the move back home to Nigeria (a country which I haven’t lived in for near 14 years) having being educated and living out in the west. I am looking forward to seeing how much I would have grown (both personally and professionally – hopefully positively) here. I have only being here 4 months and loving my move thus far but I think only after living for a year will I be able to have a better perspective of how I feel about uprooting myself from the west. (This reason is a more about me so may be less relevant to you lol)

 

Why are you excited about 2016? I would love to hear YOUR thoughts, visions and plans!!! You never know how you could inspire others so don’t be shy with your words. 🙂

 

Much love

#Sassy