Recently I had a conversation with a friend and in that conversation, we discussed how she felt rejected by a guy she really grew to like and how she didn’t understand that someone like her was rejected (Tbh, I didn’t understand it either, she is pretty, had a great personality and the works but I guess I’ll never understand how Eric Benet lost Halle Berry). She said she needed closure as to why this was the case (I was surprised given this whole rejection happened nearly 3 months ago). My response was possibly harsh but I feel its a lesson to us all (FYI /Warning!! you need to be thick-skinned to have me as a friend). My words were “why are you upset with this rejection? Someone doesn’t want to be with you, what’s so wrong with that? It’s not a reflection of who you are, it’s a choice made of preference and everyone is entitled to that choice”. Her response was that no one had ever rejected her before and so its was an awkward feeling to deal with. I think she felt I was being a little mean but I hope she understood that I was coming from a good place.This whole conversation made me later reflect on life as a whole and on how we are so afraid of rejection, afraid of not being accepted, so afraid of not being wanted and so afraid of FAILURE. I began to reflect more on why we are so afraid and I have come to my conclusion that the reason lies in the fact that we were brought up in a society that praises success and diminishes failure. We see failure as a stigma, a plague, a disease, something we don’t want the world to know about, something we don’t want to be associated with and something we keep hidden. We never celebrate rejection or failure, do we?
The thing we as human beings forget is that failure and rejection is part and parcel of life. We forget that it is actually the lessons from failure that propel us to success. The moment we understand this, the quicker we can take the lessons from them and truly live boldly.
I left her with this phrase which I also leave you with: “Remember that everything is not meant for you, and you are not meant for everything or everyone and remember that there is nothing wrong with that”
#SassyFunke
#Till next time
I love this post love! It is absolutely relatable, not long ago I found it hard to accept rejection from someone whom I convinced myself had strong feelings for me. It is part of life and it hurts but I’m better for it.
Thanks for the comment! I am happy you could relate and even happier that you were able to become better for it, that’s the beauty of rejection – that we can even use it to propel into a better space and mindset that we were before.