It’s not that serious, LET IT GO!

I never understood it when I would bring an argument I had with a friend to my mum and she would say “let it go, it’s not that serious”. To be honest, it would drive me mad as if to say she didn’t understand the gravity of how I felt or how I felt I had been treated.

It’s an odd feeling now as I see myself repeating those words to my friends when they come to me to vent about others (maybe it’s age or maturity or life lessons or just luck). My questions to them go like this:

• Is it possible they saw your point differently?
• Are you ready to lose the relationship or fix it?
• On the scale of your life issues, how does this fare?

I had an argument with a friend 4 years ago. It got really bad to the extent that she went to extremes to make me look bad in front of mutual friends. We didn’t speak for years and she later reached out for some help. I had a choice, and I chose to help out. A few of my friends were outraged that I would consider to do so but I realized that I needed to forgive her, not for her but for me. The loss of friendship actually hurt me more than they knew. I had lost someone I really connected with.

Letting go is important because we will always be offended by those around us but its important to find the seed of forgiveness in us and to remember we also are imperfect beings.

Letting go takes the pain away, It lets you dwell on the things that truly matter.

I encourage you to let go of what weighs you down, to let go of what prevents you from actually holding meaningful relationships. Life is too short to have shoulda’s, coulda’s and woulda’s. As Nigerian’s would say #TheDevilIsALiar (i.e. I won’t let this negative circumstance come to pass or to affect life as it is)

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” || Mahatma Gandhi